Monday, October 19, 2015

Chapter 3: understanding emotional intelligence

  • cybersites that people can join to 'talk' in real time: chat rooms
  • delayed gratification: made famous by the Marshmallow study
  • Reduce your stress:
make enough time to study if you have multiple tests in a day
talk to professors about expectations
look at the syllabus!!
time management
calender/to-do list
  • emotions are strongly tied to physical & psychological well-being
  • Emotional intelligence: ability to recognize, understand, use, & manage moods, feelings, & attitudes
helps you respond appropriately to a situation
able to cope w life's pressures & demands
understanding emotions--> monitor & label feelings accurately, determine why you feel that way
predicting how others might feel in a situation
managing emotions
sometimes good to stay open to feelings, sometimes good to disengage from them & return to it later
emotionally intelligent students get higher grades
students who can't manage emotions struggle academically
  • Steps toward improving EI (emotional intelligence):
  1. identify strengths & weaknesses
  2. set realistic goals
  3. formulate plan
  4. check progress on a regular basis
why should you improve your EI? it helps you reach your academic potential
  • Competencies:
 intrapersonal skills:
-emotional self-awareness: knowing how/why you feel the way you do
-assertiveness: standing up for self w/o being too aggressive
-independence: decisions on your own w/o having to get everyone's opinion
-self-regard: liking yourself in spite of flaws
-self-actualization: satisfied & comfortable w what you have achieved
 interpersonal skills:
-empathy: effort to understand another person's point of view
-social responsibility: establishing personal link w group/community & cooperating, working toward shared goal
-interpersonal relationships: seek out healthy & mutually beneficial relationships & maintain them
-reality testing: checking feelings to see if they're appropriate
-flexibility: adapt & adjust feelings, viewpoints, and actions as situations change
-problem solving: approach challenges step by step, not giving up at obstacles
stress management:
-stress tolerance: recognizing causes of stress, responding appropriately, stay strong under pressure
-impulse control: think carefully about consequences before acting, delay gratification to achieve long-term goals
general mood & effective performance:
-optimism: "bright side", be confident that things will work out for the best
-happiness: satisfied w yourself

1 comment:

  1. Emotion and feelings both the terms are very much crucial in our life. Most probably people with soft heart are always taking the support of emotions and feelings instead of people with practical thoughts. Therefore it is really essential to take very good care of our emotional intelligence; otherwise are suffering from emotional issues; I would like to take some positive lessons from here regarding how to understand emotional intelligence. Thanks for such a wonderful article.
    Emotional Intelligence